How do I know when to say “I love you”?

Gina answers your love questions

How do I know when to say “I love you”? What if my partner doesn’t feel the same way about me?

Real love is unconditional…

To love someone unconditionally means that you love the person exactly as they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in the future – because people change all the time, so if you love the person, you will love them even if they become something you disagree with. How many parents can say that about their kids? How many people can say that about their “lover”? Love is not about you or your pleasure or your amusement. It’s not about what you get out of it or what the other person can give to you. It’s not about having a trophy you can show off with and tell people “This is *MY* girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband/son/daughter/whatever”. You do not “own” anyone. It’s not about you feeling ‘proud’ to be with someone who always agrees with everything you say and do and never does anything you disagree with.

Unconditional love means that the person can just live their life exactly as they choose and you will always be there for them no matter what.


Unconditional love is also more of a spiritual thing.

It’s not bound by physical things, like blood relations and the desire to procreate. It has nothing whatsoever to do with sex. Most people are in relationships because they have sexual needs and/or lonely, even if they genuinely think they love the other person. But if the person they “love” suddenly “changed” for whatever reason, would they still want to be with that person? Would they get jealous if the person they “love” wanted to spend time with other people as well? Relationships based on needs are not unconditional.


In order to truly understand love, you must first forget everything you have ever learned about it from society and anyone else (including what I just said).


You are the only person who can tell you what love is. Don’t try to fit “love” in a box or a circumstance, allow it to flow freely from your heart, your soul, your Being… just allow Love TO BE… and when you/we are comfortable with this feeling and know it is True in your Heart…then say it with Feeling, say it with Intent and know it is meant.


Partners usually don’t feel the same way as US!!

It would be miraculous if 2 people felt exactly the same way.

So knowing this, Allow your Heart to speak the word LOVE if it feels it within.  Be yourself always.  Love Who YOU ARE.

ALLOW yourself the freedom to feel the love within and then share your feelings.  If the other person doesn’t feel the same, or isn’t connected the same way, intuitively the soul will know how to resolve this awesome feeling and it will resolve itself.


Life is about feeling, connecting, allowing, knowing who you/we are… so allow the love to flow within you, around you, in every cell of your body… and JUST BE…


Love & Light,

Goddess Magenta